About Me

Updated 22nd September, 2014

I am on the hunt. For individuality. For happiness. For power. For wealth. And for a way to make a difference in the world.

But first, I must find a way to survive…

Not all those who wander, are lost. – JRR Tolkien

22nd July, 2013

Eighteen, female, directionless. Three words which surmise all there is to know about me.

Being an adult female is never easy, being an adult female in South-East Asia is another thing all together. Of all my neighboring countries, only dear China has empowered its female population to a point where they are considered almost as equal as the men. This is a considerable feat considering all the cultural barriers the modern Chinese woman had to cross before getting where she is now. But she has always had support. In Mao Tse-Tung’s words, women hold up half the sky. There are no words wiser than these, and must be drilled into the hard heads of the Asian male, from the day he emerges from his mother’s womb!

Being directionless is I believe an ailment every teen has at this moment in their lives. Here in pakistan, society wants me married, my parents want me obedient and married, my siblings want me happy, the extremists want me ‘covered’, the liberals want me clubbing, but has anyone asked me what I want?

I want peace, freedom and literacy. I want the women of my country to stand up for themselves. I want the men to learn respect. I want this religious extremism to be eradicated. And I want the Neanderthal society, to change as the time changes.

I want to be an empowered woman of the 21st century, and most importantly, I want to be myself.

61 thoughts on “About Me

    • Thankyou Your Highness!

      I read a little of yours too, and it was such a zing of energy. I was half asleep, since I’m not a morning person (it’s nine here…and Saturday, early much?) And your blog really opened them stuffy eyes. I can actually see you, with my overworking imagination, bouncing across the page with a fairy wand in your hand! πŸ˜€

  1. well these things define me too…despite the age…I am elder than you πŸ™‚ It was lovely reading about you Raiha….you are beautiful and your love for your country is impressive πŸ™‚

    • It’s always nice to see writings of other people from Pakistan. I feel happy when I see women like you and hopeful that there are atleast some who are literate, aware and broad-minded! I am always on the lookout for such like minded people.

  2. I just read your comment of Alienoras blog and thought I’d visit. I remember when I was just starting, and you sound like me. I love it when people comment on my posts, and will try to comment on yours. Good luck with your blog.

  3. Aakansha says:

    Can I just begin to say how glad I am that you stopped by my blog. It’s such a pleasure to have bumped across yours.

    You just owned me by aspiring for an era of stable and confident women both physically and emotionally. And religious extremism is something I have strong opinions against.

    Good luck in your quest. And did I say that I love that aura of esteem and valor? I sure as hell look forward to your posts.
    Love and Luck
    Aakansha. πŸ™‚

    • My sixth is tingling Aakansha; I foresee a friendship in the future!

      My goal in life is to make a stronger future by being stronger ourselves. And by ourselves, I mean the women of South-East Asia. I’m glad to see there are other women out there who share my views.

      I am looking forward to long and healthy discussions on religion, politics and everything else under the sun!

      An excited Raiha -x

    • Hey Bilal. I would say it is better not to hold unrealistic expectations, but I don’t want to scare you off! When I write, I write something meaningful, atleast for me, but when I don’t, I don’t.

      So I hope you’ll find my journey worth sticking around. Thanks for the follow πŸ™‚

      • bilalsidiki says:

        Hmm you ain’t scaring me off, what i do think is that the pic their is something i have seen before. I don’t remember where, maybe Tumblr or Facebook.

        I try to write meaningful stuff too, I hope so too πŸ™‚

      • bilalsidiki says:

        You have put a Profile Pic from PinInterest of someone else? …

        Talk about stealing ‘ identities ‘ .-.

      • OMG No!!! I was talking about the header. The profile picture is of me holding a poster saying “itehad” and if you saw THAT on some site then please send me the link because that someone is stealing MY identity!

      • bilalsidiki says:

        Actually i am only seeing it from thumbnail view about the 3rd of finger’s size so i think i have mistaken.

        Many people had got that type of pic holding a poster For Peshawar Stuff so … idk

      • Upload an image to the Google Images search bar and see all the pages on which it’s displayed :3 I use it to track down which of my ‘photographer’ friends’ photos are plagiarized xD

      • bilalsidiki says:

        Lol and you Troll them later?

        Are your ‘ photographer friends ‘ DSLR owners first and then photographers? (thats quite typical)

        Coincidently i am working on a post for Grammar Nazi, you are a Photo Nazi then i guess.

      • Emaan, Itehad, Tanzeem? Faith, Unity and Discipline? Um I assumed you were Pakistani because of the loadshedding post. You ARE, right?

      • bilalsidiki says:

        Not Necessarily, yes i am related to this land but i am not Nationalist nor even a Patriot in that aspect.

        I respect Freedom and the land for what is good in it, and don’t for what is bad in it. Being a Pakistani is just another way of dividing up the already divided Humanity.

      • In that respect doesn’t religion also divide humanity? But you identify yourself as a Muslim as I can see from your blog posts. Then why not as a Pakistani? I am just curious about it.

      • bilalsidiki says:

        Religion is a Purpose of Life, Islam is my choice. Because it makes you more Humanitarian than an average Atheist.

        Being Religious is different than being a Nationalist, Religion is the connection between one who Created you. The latter is only with Land (a piece of Earth – another creation)

        Different Religions do not divide you, basically all of them are similar when it comes to Socializing with the community at large. Things which are different should not divide us, as they are personal beliefs.

      • Well your argument is valid in its own way but I stick to the concept that man, being a social animal, identifies himslef as part of a larger group. And if that larger group of individuals can be a religion, why can it not be a country?

        Let us agree to disagree though. I being a PAF brat anyway, am a hard-core Pakistani and I feel proud in identifying myself relative to my country, no matter its faults πŸ™‚

      • bilalsidiki says:

        See thats the problem, its similar to Tribalism, Racism, Sectarianism and all of that.

        Praise What is good and Criticize What is wrong.
        That’s what i believe in.

        PAF Brat, you’d surely hate me ( i think ) lol

      • Well I add religion to all those isms you mentioned above. No offense meant. Since owning Pakistan is my own personal choice as well as my religion and I do not make anyone embrace patriotism just like I don’t urge my Christian friends to convert.


      • bilalsidiki says:

        πŸ™‚ I understand – glad that you ain’t a part of the wrong system.

        Your father is of PAF really?

      • bilalsidiki says:

        Cool and Good that He is Retired too (no offense) – things are getting bad now here (i am assuming you are not in Pakistan Currently) πŸ™‚

        – My friend couldn’t pass ISSB but studying in PAF College in Murree made him he able to Ride a plane (training one) – i don’t know what it is called.

        I am still Jealous (a bit)

      • My ‘coordinates’ are 33.6Β° N, 73.03Β° E, IRP. This is how I refer to my location. Consult Google. It is not meant to be ‘cold’, just cooler πŸ˜‰

        I am currently very much in Pakistan as is evident by my coordinates and have no plan on leaving anytime soon.

        He is retired but still serving Pakistan as a social worker.

        And LOL us PAF brats get to see the inside of fighter planes though obviously we don’t fly it πŸ˜€

      • bilalsidiki says:

        I have never done this Coordinates thing ever, last time i remember having to do anything with it was in Geography in O’levels … lets see how it goes.

      • bilalsidiki says:

        Wow that was easy lol, thanks for that though. Its always nice to find new ways to show the beauty of the most simplest of things.

        Oh okay good i guess πŸ™‚

        Haha Good for you, i only went with a School Trip in Karachi to see that Planes Museum. Don’t even remember much of it, just the Quaid’s plane (quite large).

        Btw is this Commenting thing disturbing people or in any way giving notifications to them?

      • Na it’s not unless they have subscribed to be sent emails of the comments after they have commented. Nobody does that though. I always have long debates on my posts xD

      • bilalsidiki says:

        Yeah okay lol .. to you too

        Sleep for now, we both have to get up for Fajr

        Happy Breathing πŸ™‚

      • bilalsidiki says:

        Even my Passport says Pakistani and Also in My Account its Pakistani. Its just i have better Identity of myself than being that.

      • You are entitled to your own opinion πŸ™‚ And being a Pakistani is not your whole identity, neither is it mine. But it certainly is a PART of it, whether you like it or not. You are not a metaphysical being but you have a solid body. Where that body is placed are your coordinates on Earth. And that certainly is part of one’s identity. That is my opinion πŸ™‚

      • bilalsidiki says:

        Theology has its basis in Religion, Universalities are a part of it. They Don’t divide rather gives a Coherent approach to take while dealing with everyone around you.

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