What Is College?

  • College is when your arms ache every day due to carrying notebooks, a laptop, a camera and a tripod, among other things.
  • College is when all your sandals break in a few months because of overuse.
  • College is when you have epic tan lines due to gallivanting in the sun.
  • College is when you sleep during the evening and wake up at night to work.
  • College is when you’r always looking for internships and/or jobs and/or freelance work.
  • College is where you want to be in the spotlight.
  • College is when you’re broke.
  • College is when your hair seldom leaves a bun or a ponytail.
  • College is where you always look like a hobo.
  • College is when you forget what makeup was.
  • College is when people compliment you on losing weight but you never had any intention to do so.
  • College is when you forget to eat and sleep.
  • College is where your ears are always pricked like a hound to catch someone gossiping about you.
  • College is where you feel like a (used) tissue paper.
  • College is where there is is seldom any concept of friends.
  • College is your name in a written complaint.
  • College is arguments with all kinds of people.
  • College is evil teachers.
  • College is when a teacher compliments you in front of the Head of Department and you get to know about it from another teacher.
  • College is when teachers feel proud to call you their student.
  • College is crazy projects.
  • College is going out in the city for a project without any vehicle and hitchhiking your way back home somehow.
  • College is your parents’ support and trust.
  • College is an adventure.

I will keep adding more whenever I feel like it…

A collage I made from the bits and pieces I accumulated over the past couple of years. From the old registration card in the top left corner to murdering teachers to random scraps of writings and doodles, everything holds a memory!

A collage I made from the bits and pieces I accumulated over the past couple of years. From the old registration card in the top left corner to murdering teachers to random scraps of writings and doodles, everything holds a memory!

Mama, I’m Still Trying!

Circumstances in our lives and my 5-month disappearance from blogging lost me many of my regular readers, like Elk and Alienora; two people whose opinion meant a lot to me, and who were with me from the start.

They would have known that I do not get along with my mother. At all. I have mentioned this in many of my earlier posts. Now, however, I’m too lazy to go back and dig through everything until I find them. But here’s one, if you’re interested.

So, to any and all new readers, I do not get along with my mother. At all.

In our somewhat segregated society, it is usually the norm for mothers to be their daughters’ confidantes, their best friends and their stylists. Contrarily, from the beginning, it has been my father who was my friend. Any and all advice I received from him, even to the point where I get him to chose between two outfits I want to wear some party! However the dynamic relationship between I and my father is not relevant to this post.

Recently, clashes with my mother have been reaching an all time high. Yesterday, I reached my breaking and snapped at her to “just stop it”.

Still, every night, I lay awake and think about all my friends who hang out with their mothers and snap funny selfies, and who sleep with their heads in their mothers’ laps. These girls think I have the perfect life. I have a supportive, liberal family, a 3.84 CGPA, a laptop, a phone, a car whenever I need it. I’m good at almost everything I do, teachers love me, I make my own living and the list goes on and on.

Little do they know how much I envy them.

They have the one thing I’ve never had; so I try. My siblings have long since stopped trying. They no longer get hurt when Mother ridicules them in front of servants or taunts them in front of guest.

I however, still try.

Sometimes at night I just want to go and hug her tight. But I don’t, because I can never be sure whether she’ll push me away, give a scathing remark or hug me back.

Sometimes I just want to talk to her. Really talk to her. And find what goes on in her head that she resents us so much.

Sometimes I just want her to say she’s proud of me.

So I try.

I tell her about my Computer Graphics assignment and show her the designs I made. She nods. I tell her about how girls had dressed up today, skipped class and hung out because the weather was nice. She nods. I tell her about how my teachers said they were proud to have me as a student. She nods. I tell her about how a famous political analyst is my teacher at college. She nods.

I say something about the maid. She explodes. I say something about food. She explodes. I say something about my maternal relatives. She explodes. I say something about her favorite child. She explodes. I say one ordinary word out of context and she explodes. She mocks me.

I cry. My sisters ask me why do I still care? Why do I still try so hard to be her daughter? Why do I still take what she says to heart?

I have no answer to give them.

Except the fact that she’s my mother. A mother’s love is supposed to be unconditional and all-consuming, is it not?

Is it so wrong of me to want that?